Milton Paris

Milton Paris

By Milton Paris

Business people that have negative thoughts will always have negative results and never be successful or reach their goals in life. Negative thoughts distract your focus from what is important and drain your energy.

Like a computer, our mind was programmed to work at its best. Over the years, as we confront adversities that attack our well-being like viruses, we lose our optimism. When a virus attacks a hard drive or our bodies, neither works properly. Let’s scan our thoughts and bring our mind up to date with only positive thoughts. This way as a business person you can go out there and achieve your goals with a positive mind.

As a business person, your mind may be going constantly with negative thoughts that you have to learn to overcome. You can have the fastest computer, but if you install the wrong software it will not function properly. Our mind is like a computer, and it is time to delete these negative thoughts, eliminate the viruses, and re-program our minds with positive software.

Working with many business people over the years I have heard the following negative behaviors and remarks. Have you had any of the limiting thoughts below? I encourage you to scan your thoughts for similarities and hit delete if you find them.

1. Complaining – DELETE

2. Cannot do – DELETE

3. It will never happen – DELETE

4. Blame others for our failures – DELETE

5. I will never be successful – DELETE

6. I will never achieve my goals – DELETE

7. I will never get the raise that I deserve – DELETE

8. Why are other salespeople being promoted? – DELETE

If your thinking is limited, then your life and business will be limited. I remember working with a client whose wish list included owning a Rolls Royce.

One of his partners told him, “You will never achieve that wish and buy that car.” “Delete your partner’s negative remark,” I said. Six months later he picked me up in his dream car. Soon it came time to take my own advice on a similarly lofty goal. My dream mode of transportation wasn’t a classic with four wheels on a road, but a saddle, some spurs, and a gallop beside a rambling trout-filled river.

My dream was always to be a cowboy and live out west. Until recently I travelled that area only for business. Two years ago I started taking horseback riding lessons, but all my friends and relatives discouraged me, saying, “You will never learn to ride.”

After taking lessons for three months from one of my clients, I grew proficient in riding. I was becoming a cowboy with my hat, chaps, and boots like I always dreamed. To complete the picture, I needed to head out to Montana.  Again, everyone said, “Are you crazy? You will never go.”

My wife Susan and I flew out west to Bozeman, Montana, and I rustled cattle every morning for five fabulous days. I had finally become a cowboy. But what did I have to do to get there? Delete all those negative remarks.

Mark your calendar for the Business Meet N’ Greets for the month of June:  

  • 3rd. Annual Business Meet N’ Greet on Thursday June 4 at Bonefish Grill 55 US Route 9 Manalapan, NJ 07726 11:30am-1:30pm. $16.00 per person Lunch & Networking.
  • 1st. Annual Business Meet N’ Greet Thursday June 18 Red Oak Diner & Lounge 2973 Route 35N Hazlet NJ 07730 11:30am-1:30pm $7.00 per person Luncheon & Networking
  • 5th Annual Business Meet N’ Greet Thursday June 25 Ciro’s Ristorante Italiano 301 Buckelew Ave. Jamesburg, NJ 08831 5:30pm-7:30pm $15.00 per person Dinner & Networking

Bring plenty of business cards. Email: [email protected]. For more information visit For a free consultation call Milton to schedule a meeting. Be always persistent and just remember, nothing is impossible. For more information call 732.306.0040.